When I first saw this I thought to myself, now there are some girls that didn't get enough attention growing up. Why else would they be there killing each other to become pseudo-famous? Well, after thinking about it, I got another bright idea. I could literally feel the heat from the light buld over my head. Old School incandescent. I don't cotton these new CFL's. You see, this whole thing was surprising to me, because I was under the impression that parents these days gave their kids ALL kinds of attention. Isn't that what Dr. Spock teaches? It occured to me that the problem wasn't lack of attention at all, but Too much!!!
A friend told me a while ago that he has to praise his daughter every time she has a bowel movement. As if it was the most amazing thing in the world. I overheard a co-worker of mine talking about her 1 year old baby. She was beaming with pride that her child was walking. Bragging even. Umm...barring some unfortunate disability, don't we all learn to walk? What her baby did was I'm sure, exciting for her, but it wasn't special. Not even a little bit.
No one sets out for their kids to be average though. There's a reason average means what it does. At one end of the scale are the truly special. If your kid can speak three languages and give you a reasonable opinion on current state of Mid-East affairs by the age of 8, then yeah...your kid is amazing. Your job is to teach some humility! If on the other hand, your kid falls at the other end of the spectrum, teach them to try hard, and to be the best they can. Most of US though, fall into the great Ocean of the Average. There's nothing wrong with it. It's the way it HAS to be.
Just don't over praise your kids people! It's gonna make them feel a little entitled and a whole lot of crazy. I'm not saying to underwhelm your kids with love and support either. I know it's a fine line to walk, and it's one of the MANY reasons I don't want to have kids. Please just love your kids for who they are. Even if they are not a little wunderkind. Average is the new Awesome!!!!
Not of this matters much anyway. I see super smart people who fail miserably and am stunned by the success I see in some others. Who really knows how it all works. I just want to get back to when a young girl was "discovered" by a "talent scout" at the mall. Who, of course, had sex with her. Viola! A New Model!! No cattle calls. No un-reality TV shows. No TYRA!!!!!!!
It was a simpler time.
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